There has been far too long a gap between posting I must confess. And the reason for that is mostly rain. At some point in the year Britain has to live up to its stereotype and just rain for a couple of weeks. In fact these pictures were partly taken in the rain. It has been a very gloomy day and we popped down to the ruins in a spot of sunshine and by the time we arrived, raining once again. I'm still happy with these, even if you can tell that I'm a little damp!
I actually bought this dress several years ago, wore it for a while and then stopped after I wore it once and my husband noticed that a man was following us down the street and staring at my ass. I became very aware of how short it was and shoved it back. But you know what, everyone is wearing plaid which made me look at it again, and I'm not going to let creeps dictate my wardrobe so I thought I'd bring it back.
I went out to the pub last night and had a lovely conversation with someone until the point I bought up writing about feminism as a hobby. The guy responded to ask me 'what kind of feminist are you? A liberal feminist or a bra-burning, tree-hugging feminist'. I ask what other time do you declare yourself in favour of equality and people feel they can respond with 'but how extreme are you?' I then deconstructed his question, challenging what on earth he thought those two things meant. It's a phenomena I see all the time, and have experienced in conversations with otherwise normal reasonable and even likeable people who say things like 'I don't like how angry lots of feminist are', or even going as far as saying 'they should moderate their views, be more about consensus'. What I hear behind those words is 'Please don't make me feel uncomfortable about my privilege'.
If I declared myself fighting for a right to water or for a fair justice system they wouldn't say, 'but I hope you don't take it seriously' 'I hope you're not one of those extreme people'. I find myself becoming more angry when I see how effectively the media, with its 'Do we really need feminism?' morning tv debates, has made people think that striving for equality is something we should always question whether it is necessary, and never take too seriously. And I refused to be conned into believing anger about injustice is something I should apologise for.
|Getting a little bit wet here!|
|And ending with a picture of me running to get out of the rain.|
Dress: Forever 21 (America)
Hat: Charity shop find
Boots: Doc Martens